I have noticed a trend among abusive bosses, specifically my abusive bosses of the past. Most of them have been women. These managers first try to become very chummy with me by disclosing their most intimate details about their personal lives such as what method of birth control they are using. I've never, ever needed to know that information! Really, I don't need to know. Some of my real friends keep intimate details such as contraception to themselves. Those kind of conversations make me uncomfortable. Also I don't reciprocate with the same kind of information. After these managers act like I'm their new BFF, they find some way to abuse their authority over me. What's up with that behavior?
I'm friendly, but not that friendly, with my bosses. I follow directions and all that. I'm a good employee and know what I am doing. Mostly I try to be polite and professional.
My psychologist and one human resource director told me to tell these bitches (they didn't say bitches) that I don't want to continue having these conversations and that I am uncomfortable. Hopefully, my future bosses won't be backstabbers.
These types of managers are crazy and can make you feel like you're crazy. We're not crazy.
I've had episodes of paralyzing depression and anxiety and no self-esteem thanks to these idiots. And when I mean episodes I mean months and years of this shirt.
I am very curious about the whys of their behavior and I can undermine them.
Truthfully, I'd like to destroy THEIR careers, but I'm not that type of person. I let karma take care of those types of people.
Also, I want to be a person they are scared to reckon with, but I don't know how to do that.
Do you know of any tips of how to deal with abusive bosses.
I know you have crazy boss stories out there. Why not share them?
Lita
Here's the definition from dictionary.com.
backstabber
- 2 dictionary results–verb (used with object), -stabbed, -stab·bing.
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